Simone Abrahamsohn, a resident of Toronto, shared her experience of adjusting to a new responsibility after losing her mother this summer. She is now the primary caregiver for her older brother, Stuart, who is neurodivergent like her. Despite their differences, Stuart’s love for pistachio milkshakes and interest in violinist podcasts make him enjoyable company. However, his condition as an autistic left-brain stem stroke survivor requires specific care, including assistance with daily activities due to his hand tremor and emotional lability triggered by loud noises.
Growing up, Simone felt embarrassed by Stuart’s autism and struggled to understand his behavior, especially in social settings. She also reveals her own challenges with ADHD, mentioning the effort she puts into managing her symptoms to maintain a harmonious living environment with Stuart. Despite societal stigmas and the lack of online support during their youth, she now embraces their shared experiences and advocates for neurodiversity awareness.
Simone reflects on missed opportunities to support Stuart in the past, such as advocating for him at school and family outings. As their current roommate, she strives to be more present and inclusive, acknowledging Stuart’s listening even when he appears quiet. Although she has made personal sacrifices, like giving up acting classes to care for Stuart, she values their bond and aims to create a supportive living arrangement for both siblings. Simone sees this phase of their lives as a chance to make up for past shortcomings and strengthen their sibling relationship.
